Would you like to make a good impression on women just by talking to them? Did you know that once you attract the attention of women, your sweet and interesting personality does the rest? This article will explain how to talk to a woman so you can attract her.
The beginning
Most of the conversation should be done at the beginning. Of course this depends on the woman and the situation, but avoid what many guys do that is basing the conversation on redundant questions and common things. Try to talk about 75% in the conversation, maybe a little less. Your goal is to demonstrate your fantastic personality and your great value. Try to keep the conversation light, funny and playful. What can be the phrase to start the conversation?
The leader boy who is cool and playful:
"I know they probably tell you a lot about this, but you're the most awesome woman I've seen in the last three minutes."
"My friend had to drag me out, but I'm glad he did, because seeing you here right now was worth it."
The slightly shy boy:
"I'm sorry this is weird, but I get very shy with the pretty girls."
"I'm glad you're still here. I've tried to argue with myself for the last half hour to be able to talk to you, I was afraid of being embarrassed in front of you."
The boy who goes straight to the point:
"Hello, my name is [name], what brings you here tonight?"
"This is the part where I present myself, I smile at you and let you invite you to a drink, do not you?"
"I've been trying to think of an excuse to talk to you, but I have nothing. Can I tell you an interesting story that happened to me the other day?"
Avoid common issues like work, politics, or something negative.
Have control of the conversation, but do not be a controller. Do not ask interview questions like "Where are you from?" Or "What are you doing here?" Try to stay on your dangerous but still controlled side, and feed on that energy.
If she brings to the topic topics that you think may lead the conversation down the wrong path, bring the conversation gently in another direction. Say something that has to do with the subject, but make it fun and light, and you could make the subject change.
If she continues with the issues that you think can lead the conversation astray, you have two options:
- Feed yourself of the energy of that subject, since it seems that she wants to talk about it.
- Find an elegant and respectful way to leave the conversation, and focus on someone else. A simple "It was a pleasure talking to you" will suffice.
Move the obstacles of the past gracefully.
Many women will say they have a boyfriend if they do not find you attractive enough. At the same time, many women who say they have a boyfriend actually have one. Do not worry, the obstacles are to be overcome. You will overcome it with grace.
If a woman says "I have a boyfriend and I would prefer if you did not talk to me," just smile, tell her it was a pleasure to talk to you and go to another candidate. Sometimes life gives you bad lemons.
If a woman says "I have a boyfriend" and says nothing more, you can say, "Okay, I respect that. Would you mind if we keep talking?" If you say yes, continue the conversation, you are making lemonade with lemons.
Do not assume you can convince a woman to give you her number if she is married or in a relationship. Maybe you do not even want to be that kind of guy. If a girl mentions her boyfriend, you probably want to start looking elsewhere, unless your last wish before dying is to have her number.
Do not expect results.
Do not mind if you attract her or not. If you attract her, that will be a plus. If not, look for some other interesting girl.
If you tell yourself that you need to attract it because your ego does not accept rejection, you will be hurt again and again, because you will be rejected at some point. If you are very hurt or disappointed because you missed a unique opportunity, you will miss thousands of more opportunities that are waiting for you.
Do not be needy.
If a woman thinks for a moment that she is more valuable to you than you are to her, you will be putting yourself at a disadvantage. Why? Because people want to have to work for their prize, that makes the prize a little sweeter.
There are many techniques you can use to prove that you are not in need, but for now the best thing to do is to not expect results (as mentioned above). Remember: this woman, even though she looks beautiful, intelligent and funny, is just one of the beautiful, intelligent and funny women in the universe. If it is not for you, another will be.
Do not fill it with praise. A single compliment at the beginning of the conversation will make her aware that she attracts you. In fact, women are very smart, they will know if they appeal to you even if you do not tell them any compliments. So keep your best accolades saved and focus on impressing with your intelligence and your mood, this way you will gain advantage.
Put into practice what is called "Reading between the lines for a grade," or RCR (for the acronym in English). How it works: Find something in her that you know is not true, then tell her that quality you do not like in a girl. As it is not true, she will have to explain to you that she does not have that quality. This is called qualification, and is done when you want to gain a point in favor. What you do is a pre qualification, unconsciously she will be more attracted to you because they are sharing things in common and similar perspectives.
Lie back and remain indifferent during the conversation. Your number one priority should be to have fun, because once you remove or try to remove your ego from the equation, talking to a beautiful, intelligent and funny woman is incredibly stimulating. Flirt, molecule and be a bit cocky if that's your personality, use sarcasm (with a small smile so she knows you're kidding). Pretend you're talking to an old friend.
If she says something that you disagree with, tell her. In other words, do not be shy. When you do not agree, do not be rude or offensive. Just rationalize your opinion and let it know how you feel that way. If you do this the right way, the conversation will continue and you will have something to talk about. If you have confidence in yourself, you might disturb her because she does not agree with you (smiling slightly).
Be serene. A lot of serenity. Like the captain, you know exactly where you want to go and everything you say has a purpose. Nothing can eliminate you, even rejection. Expect the best but be prepared for the worst. Why? Because it has more serenity than a poem by Keats!
Remember that looking for girls is a matter of managing your time. Why waste time on a conversation that will not get you closer to your goal? In addition, there may be distractions that catch your eye, so every minute counts. With a little practice it will be easier to get numbers in seconds rather than minutes.
You may just want to talk for a few minutes before asking for her number, getting her to dance, etc. This is because it is difficult to maintain a witty, lively and direct conversation for a long time, even when you are in full swing. Do not extend the conversation without a goal in mind!
Use pheromones.
People use pheromones for a lot of different reasons. Most people know that pheromones are great for making yourself more attractive, but there are many more uses that may be helpful to you. Read on to learn about the different ways people use pheromones and how you can get the most benefit from them.
Finally, constantly assess your attraction. Look for open body language, dilated pupils, laughter and fingertips. Regardless of your personality or culture, women are quite consistent with the signs of attraction. With just a little practice, you can see these signals very quickly. Just follow your hunch, it will usually be correct. Thank you for reading!
Warnings
If a woman thinks for a moment that she is more valuable to you than you are to her, you will be putting yourself at a disadvantage. Why? Because people want to have to work for their prize, that makes the prize a little sweeter.
There are many techniques you can use to prove that you are not in need, but for now the best thing to do is to not expect results (as mentioned above). Remember: this woman, even though she looks beautiful, intelligent and funny, is just one of the beautiful, intelligent and funny women in the universe. If it is not for you, another will be.
Do not fill it with praise. A single compliment at the beginning of the conversation will make her aware that she attracts you. In fact, women are very smart, they will know if they appeal to you even if you do not tell them any compliments. So keep your best accolades saved and focus on impressing with your intelligence and your mood, this way you will gain advantage.
Put into practice what is called "Reading between the lines for a grade," or RCR (for the acronym in English). How it works: Find something in her that you know is not true, then tell her that quality you do not like in a girl. As it is not true, she will have to explain to you that she does not have that quality. This is called qualification, and is done when you want to gain a point in favor. What you do is a pre qualification, unconsciously she will be more attracted to you because they are sharing things in common and similar perspectives.
Lie back and remain indifferent during the conversation. Your number one priority should be to have fun, because once you remove or try to remove your ego from the equation, talking to a beautiful, intelligent and funny woman is incredibly stimulating. Flirt, molecule and be a bit cocky if that's your personality, use sarcasm (with a small smile so she knows you're kidding). Pretend you're talking to an old friend.
If she says something that you disagree with, tell her. In other words, do not be shy. When you do not agree, do not be rude or offensive. Just rationalize your opinion and let it know how you feel that way. If you do this the right way, the conversation will continue and you will have something to talk about. If you have confidence in yourself, you might disturb her because she does not agree with you (smiling slightly).
Be serene. A lot of serenity. Like the captain, you know exactly where you want to go and everything you say has a purpose. Nothing can eliminate you, even rejection. Expect the best but be prepared for the worst. Why? Because it has more serenity than a poem by Keats!
Remember that looking for girls is a matter of managing your time. Why waste time on a conversation that will not get you closer to your goal? In addition, there may be distractions that catch your eye, so every minute counts. With a little practice it will be easier to get numbers in seconds rather than minutes.
You may just want to talk for a few minutes before asking for her number, getting her to dance, etc. This is because it is difficult to maintain a witty, lively and direct conversation for a long time, even when you are in full swing. Do not extend the conversation without a goal in mind!
Use pheromones.
People use pheromones for a lot of different reasons. Most people know that pheromones are great for making yourself more attractive, but there are many more uses that may be helpful to you. Read on to learn about the different ways people use pheromones and how you can get the most benefit from them.
Finally, constantly assess your attraction. Look for open body language, dilated pupils, laughter and fingertips. Regardless of your personality or culture, women are quite consistent with the signs of attraction. With just a little practice, you can see these signals very quickly. Just follow your hunch, it will usually be correct. Thank you for reading!
Warnings
- Never force a girl to do something she does not want to do.
- If he tells you that he has a boyfriend do not use the phrase: "I am not jealous". It is very possible that her boyfriend is.
- Have confidence but do not be arrogant.
- Just keep practicing! Try to talk to strange girls on the street once a day. Remember to have good body language and the tone you use will determine your attraction!